Over the centuries, Freemasonry has been considered exclusively a men’s organisation. And that’s certainly true until the 18th century, when women began to be included in events (though it’s technically considered outside the original rites). As many brothers know, one of the disadvantages of being a freemason is the amount of dedication demanded from each member. Since this can cut into a member’s social and domestic life, a partner’s support is a crucial element of success in the organisation. This is why lodges regularly celebrate Masonic ladies’ night.
What is a Masonic Ladies’ Night?
One of the most elegant celebrations of the year, a Ladies’ Night honours the women in a Freemason’s life, including wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, and any other women who provide support. An increasing number of Lodges also host more inclusive events such as Partners’ Night.
Most Lodges celebrate with similar traditional elements but may combine Ladies’ Night with commemorations of Past Masters (both living and dead).
Mason Ladies’ Night dress code
If you’re wondering what to wear to a Masonic dinner, you’re certainly not alone: There’s plenty of secrecy around events but we’re here to clear things up.
While some US Lodges may host a semi-casual evening or a cocktail event, the majority of Lodges host a black-tie affair. The dress code for Freemason ladies' night is conservative and elegant:
- Ballgowns and evening gowns are encouraged.
- Dresses should be full length (i.e. ankle or longer).
- Gowns can be of any colour and texture.
- Accessorise freely with jewellery, scarves, fur coats, and high heels.
About Masonic gloves
Masonic gloves have always been an important element of the organisation. Whether they’re wrist, elbow, or opera length, female attendees must ensure that they wear them until after The Grace is said (when everyone can remove theirs).
Events during a Ladies’ Night
These events almost always involve similar elements. However, if you’re uncertain about an upcoming Ladies’ Night, reach out to The Lodge Secretary or Master to clear up any confusion.
Arrivals & introductions
When you arrive at the Lodge (or venue), there is typically a reception where drinks are served and photographs are taken. Guests are presented and/or introduced to a Worshipful Master and his wife.
Dinner is served
Before dinner, attendees will be expected to stand behind their chairs and wait for the emcee to call for silence (either with a gavel or bell). The Lodge’s Worshipful Master and his wife are escorted to their table by a Marshal. After the Chaplain says Grace, attendees can remove their gloves and take their seats. No one should eat until after the Worshipful Master and his wife do so.
Patriotic anthems
When coffee is served after dinner – but before dessert – UK members stand to sing Masonic Grace and the first verse of “God Save the King.”
“The Roses Song”
At one point during the meal, "The Roses Song" is sung by men who enter the room carrying a basket of roses. They sing multiple verses until they reach the Worshipful Master’s partner where she is offered the bouquet. Eventually, all men will join in.
"Tonight we are met to do Honour,
To those who in sickness and health,
Are Angels who minister to us,
The Ladies our Empires wealth,
To Mothers, Wives, Sisters and Sweethearts,
True Masons can never do wrong,
We all love the Ladies, God bless them,
And here’s to their health in a song."
Men’s Song
One of the more touching moments of a Masonic Ladies’ Night involves men singing directly to their partners. This is a heartfelt part of the evening that reflects the support and sacrifice given to the men throughout the year.
Toasts & speeches
Freemasons are known for giving plenty of toasts – and a Ladies’ Night is certainly no different!
The first toast of the evening begins with the Marshal announcing “The Loyal Toast” to the King. It is encouraged to toast with either wine or water. It’s recommended to keep enough wine in your glass to sip from (between courses, glasses are usually filled).
The Worshipful Master’s Lady is typically asked to give a speech during dinner. For inspiration, we offer a number of books on toasts and speeches.
Giving of gifts
One Freemason from each table will leave the room to retrieve gifts for each woman. These should not be opened until after the Worshipful Master’s Lady gives her speech.
Dancing & raffle
The Marshal states that the Master and Lady will “retire” and the dancing can begin when they join the dance floor. During a band intermission, a raffle is drawn. This is an excellent way for the Lodge to raise funds for the Lodge itself or a local charity.
Closing the ceremony
When it’s time to close the gala, members will gather in a circle to sing “Auld Lang Syne,” “For He’s a Jolly Good Fellow,” and listen to a final speech from the Master.
Choosing the perfect Masonic ladies’ Night gifts
Due to the reverence of these ceremonies, finding the right Masonic gift for women is important.
For future Lodge functions, a silk scarf is a stylish way to add flourish to an outfit – and can be used in your partner’s daily life as a way to show support for Lodge life. We also offer a wide range of purse holders, wine stoppers, and gown clips.
Masonic jewellery
Fashioned directly in Birmingham’s Jewellery District, we believe that stylish Freemason pendants are one of the more thoughtful gifts you can give your partner. If your daughter is attending a Ladies’ Night, why not consider Swarovski crystal-studded forget-me-not earrings? Some of our best-selling objects are intricate Masonic orbs that unfold into a cross shape. We offer various options in gold and silver at every price point.
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